Community Blogging

PostSecret card of the absent father

1.) While reading the PostSecret website each member of our group had a different reaction and found certain specific cards more intriguing than others. The fact that people aren’t afraid of what judgment can come out of their secrets is quite shocking. The picture where the mom admits to enjoying “disciplining” her child was the most vivid to me. She is admitting to having a problem and I like that someone she doesn’t even know replied to her secret in a  non-judgmental way and offered help (through a link to a website for prevention of child abuse). The card with the switch blade that reads “I wish my friend hadn’t made me promise i wouldn’t hurt myself anymore” makes us realize that situations like theirs occurs often around the world and overall it’s sad and depressing. Other more family related issues such as the fathers day card of the daughter that never got to experience  the love that a father can give but still forgives him demonstrates the humbleness of a young child that probably  never got the chance to have someone that she can call her father. The overall diversity of the posts that the author chose to put up on the website can be interesting. The types of posts extend over a broad range of topics such as suicide, child abuse, death and others that are shocking, sad, and personal. Then on the other side of the spectrum you have posts that are more funny and positive such as the one where a tv is admitted to being broken because of a Celtics loss and being able to orgasm after just a kiss. This keeps the site from being just strictly more on the negative side of personal secrets and and give us a sense that some really personal things can be shocking yet entertaining in a funny way.

2.) As a group overall, while reading the card we didn’t really try and identify the race or gender because we were just more intrigued by what was written. There were of course some instances where a card would be read and you automatically assume the gender, such as the broken TV as a result of a sports team loss, which we automatically assume to be written by a male. When it comes to these cards, it’s not really easy to identify the potential race of the person whom wrote it, hence gender seems to be the only thing that comes into play and it’s meaningful to be able to identify the gender because it allows us to think about some of the ongoing issues that both females and males face. This of course only applies if it is somewhat obvious to be able to identify the particular gender, but if we can then we are able to see what issues are prevalent among females and what issues are prevalent among males.


2 Responses to “Community Blogging”

  1. You guys used very significant examples within the postcards which greatly supported your most important claim, that Post Secret is a very comforting and nonjudgmental space to share secrets. You referred to the woman who openly admitted to finding satisfaction in physically disciplining her child. You noted that in the comments for her post she wasn’t judged, but instead she received guidance through a reply. Not only does this emotionally help the author, but it opens the eyes of the viewers on to issues that people are undergoing in our society. We also liked that you did not limit yourself to only mentioning one post in your blog. You were very descriptive when it came to explaining other post cards dealing with other issues such as self-mutilation. It was interesting to note that these issues were not treated as one being more sever then the other. Your blog makes it clear that the website is clearly a non-bias space where issues can be treated in a variation of ways. They’re treated with serious concern, while others are merely for comical relief.

    This leads us to the gender and race section, we agree with what you said about not considering gender nor race when reading the post, because the same happened to us. We focused more on the actual message that the card was sending out to the viewer. We liked your point that it is natural to assume the author’s gender when reading his or her post card. We realized that this is a result of trying to identify race/ gender based off of our own individual “in-group/out-group” (Gorham) perceptions.

  2. Although it is easy to read some of these post cards and guess the gender of the person who sent it, it is important to realize that difference in gender should never devalue the message sent. All of the people agreeing to this kind of self-disclosure are dealing with issues that are just simply human in nature. When looking through the website once more, we found that some of the most common topics included: body issues, sex, family, relationships…. All of these issues whether presented if funny or more serious in nature are all united by the fact that we are all people. Sending a funny postcard to be made public is just as humbling as sending one having a more serious tone.

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